Category: Therapy & Counselling

How do I tame anxiety?

by Angela Slade

In some cases, having anxiety requires medical intervention and/or treatment. However, here are some self-treatments one can do to tame anxiety. The first step is to identify your patterns. What specific triggers are linked to your anxiety? Notice what sets your anxiety in motion, and give it a name. Once you bring it into awareness, you can begin to make sense of it and then to address it. Second, write your specific worry down, and then develop a plan to address it. Tackle one or two worries at a time.

This task-oriented process can give you a feeling of satisfaction; more importantly, it makes you feel less vulnerable, more in control of your life. Third, don’t worry alone. In the absence of realistic feedback, we often can create some real doomsday scenarios. If something is troubling you, get the reassurance and validation you need. Consult someone you trust–a friend, family member, or a counsellor. Anxiety often diminishes when we share our worries. Finally, exercise can be one of the best self-treatments for anxiety. It doesn’t matter how you move your body— what does matter is that you get regular exercise. Even minor housecleaning, a few minutes of gardening, or some simple stretches can help tame anxiety.

How Do I Tame My Inner Critic?

By Angela Slade

Taming your inner critic is much like taming a wild animal – it must be done with awareness and consistency. It’s a sneaky little beast and will come sliding in the back door, just as you shove it out the front. If you judge it or criticize it, you are feeding the wild beast because you are behaving just like it. Here are some tips to help tame your inner critic. First, identify your inner critic’s top ten places where it likes to hang out. This could be a situation, event, or a place such as the mirror. Second, draw a picture of your inner critic and name it. Place this in a spot where you will see it regularly. Third, get to know your inner critic. Notice what makes it louder; what diminishes its power; what happens if you talk back; what happens when you just look at it calmly in the eyes and reassure it everything will be okay. Experiment with this exercise and notice if there are any shifts in your day/week/month. Once you’ve begun taming your inner critic, you’ll feel lighter and freer than ever before. You may even have the courage and confidence to embark on a new adventure.